I was thinking about the victories we gain in our lives, and came to the conclusion that ‘victories’ are essentially relative. By this I mean that different people would view the same victory from different perspectives.

Let me use an addict as an example; an addict is a person who cannot do without that ‘one thing’ in their life. For instance, a heroin addict cannot go a day without a fix – the nature of the addiction precludes this. An alcoholic cannot go a day without that one (or more) drink. The nature of the addiction demands both a physical (physiological) as well as spiritual (psychological) satisfaction.

Now, when an addict decides to do an about-turn, and makes the decision to reverse the addiction, it will start by small steps. (I know there are cases of people who have been set free from addictions instantaneously, but let us assume in this case it is not so). A small step would normally start with something really small, like an hour or so. If the addict can go without the fix for an hour, for them that is a victory. The hour, if the endurance and perseverance remain, will become two, then three, then a day, a week, a month, a year and so forth. But each milestone, no matter how small, is still a victory.

The person that is in the process of breaking the addiction must realise that a victory is a victory, and each one counts. When they believe in the victories, it also means they believe in the process, and therefore each victory is turned into a building block that will sustain the change in behaviour. If they are swayed by the perception of others that turn their small victories into something that doesn’t count, the building blocks will remain only an illusion.

Whether we are the addict, or whether we are supporting someone who is, a steady belief in the process of victory upon victory must not waver. Every victory is to be celebrated!